Yes you had the old figured out and it was easy.  You had all the programs and tools lined up and knew exactly all of the steps.  But, in order to grow you upgraded.  The upgrade didn't appear like an upgrade. It felt awkward and you
didn't know all the steps and felt held up.  The old is harder to access now because the OLD lessons have been integrated into the NEW but much expanded step.  You can't go backwards.  However, comfortable it was!  

And you haven't yet found your sea legs.  But your Soul wants to expand, not stay in the same place forever.  The way the new experience feels is weird, rough and yet curiosity comes up about how you'll do this, who can help you?  You start something with intentions to complete it and then you realize you don't have the tool you need in that moment.  Your mind rises up and says "How am I ever going to complete this, I am going to fail before I've even begun, this has wasted my time, ARRRGHH!!!!"

But the soul says BREATHE it will all come together.  Just trust that it's all unfolding perfectly even amidst the frustration.  When you are feeling blocked by external things. Computer programs that you don't yet have the tools to open.  Learning new ways to open and perceive the old.  Having to adjust the lens to take in the expanded view.  Remember the old used to feel like this before it was mastered. These HOLD UPS are part of the process. 

Sometimes these hold ups are about learning patience.  Whilst calming the mind chatter that is saying "the external will see me as a failure".  Seeing and hearing all those who were impatient with YOU in the past saying there you go again.  Yet remember YOU never failed, you in fact grew despite them towards the NEW.  And maybe part of their learning process is to remember as it is yours that learning at NEW level is a PROCESS.  Its practicing going with what is.  For what is, is what is and yet ever expanding.  

So I say breathe and remember it's a process!  You can do it just flow with what is and it will all unfold perfectly without struggle, just adjusting bit by bit to the new.  And this will change the energy around the situation.  Maybe the energy has been the issue all along.  

Adjusting is not the same as struggle.  Struggle is splashing about and angry, whereas adjusting is going with what is breathing and reminding oneself it's a process, which includes stop offs!!!!  


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I am going to talk about something today that may not seem like love and light but healing comes from awareness and revelation.  Over the years I have reflected on the family patterns of my mother and my grand mother.  I recognised that I to followed the familiar pattern which was reinforced by society to take care of others before myself.  Unlike my mother and grand mother I was afforded the opportunity to attend college and later go to university.  I have read countless books and attended many courses all with the purpose of improving my life and that of my daughter's.  I heard my mum say some years ago that she'd not had the chance to follow her dreams and be a nursery nurse because she'd devoted her life to taking care of others in an unpaid capacity.  Once we were of a certain age and attending High School mum returned to part time work of a manual nature which was not so well paid.  My grand mother, I called (nannie growing up!) worked in manual jobs in various industries for meagre wages.  She later took care of my ailing grand father just as she had retired.  Both of these very significant women in my life encouraged me to get an education so I wouldn't have to work so hard for meagre wages. 

As my daughter will convey, I've attended many courses and have enough books to fill a library :-) and I have applied a lot of what I have learnt.  I even took some time off work to go back to college to ensure I had the right qualifications to become a mature student.  I confess to always having a hard time at work never really fitting in with the bosses vision.  I have a pet hate for seeing others including myself mistreated and disrespected.  Yet, this seems to be the way the world of work was!  The boss previously a worker was dominated and manipulated and treated poorly and then works their way up and then treats those under them in much the same way.  I am told this is work ethic in practice!  So going to university and being in education was much preferred to working.  Don't get me wrong I am not lazy although I do love to sit and read and gaze out of the window dreaming of what it would be like if others treated each other well. 

However, I found similar practices during my placements at university.  I wonder whether these people just don't have a clue how to nurture those under their guardianship.  It appears so, yet some seem to get out alive!  I expect since our thoughts affect others that these people in power position could sense that I did not agree with their work ethic.  After letting go of this formal education when it was obvious it was not my best fit either, I went and studied Performance Coaching and NLP.  It is here I realised how poor teaching practices really are with out coaching and NLP, which are the cornerstones to excellent communication and understanding of other people.  What I did realise is the more I learnt over the years the more upset I was with the system and work ethic which under pinned nearly every job and educational establishment I'd encountered (yes there were one or two that didn't fit this mold!) The lack of nurturing those in your guardianship.

I feel like many in the trap of this system because despite being in the process of building up my own business, I need to earn a living in a part time job in the meantime.  This part time job is one where much is expected and the pay is meagre so despite all the education I am actually doing a job similar to my mother and grand mother (nannie)! I am told its due to the recession. I feel the system doesn't support the majority.  So what's the solution?  Reconnecting with your Inner Team just sit quietly and breath and ask "Inner Team please guide me".  And you'll begin to see your family patterns and correct them so you end up with people who have a better understanding of nurturing you!

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In any group or dynamic the most dominant energy will act as a tuning fork for the energy that surrounds it.  Every successful person had people around them that supported them.  If you look a person who is miserable and depressed you will usually see them all alone or with some others who are also complaining about their fate.  Also, this explains why group healings work and why it is said that great minds think alike.  Thus, discerning and deciding what groups of energy you support matters if you are not to get burnt out, drained and ending up in energies that make you feel sick. 

I'll give you an example, Jenny had pure intentions of making a difference in the Gallagher household.  She went and sometimes she was able to influence changes.  Mainly when it was supporting the family in gaining something such as extra services or financial support.  However, if Jenny was trying to speak up for the children against something Mr and Mrs Gallagher did not agree with then since they were in the leading roles and had the final say Jenny couldn't influence them.  And then other professionals joined the mix and also were playing leading roles in the various fields.  Jenny was there to support their goals for the family and sometimes those goals conflicted but the leading person present usually got their way, which was usually mum.  And occasionally dad! 

Jenny was so frustrated and could see that many times the children were powerless.  She helped them to learn about dialoguing and discussing things with their parents however they also found that if their parents disagreed then they lost the battle.  And once again the most dominant energies won! 

On one particular week Jenny got sick, I am sure it was brought on by the struggle and challenge of feeling sickened by her lack of control of the group she allowed herself to participate in.  She just couldn't budge the dominant energies.  She began to contemplate what was going on?  And she realised that she was cast in a supporting role.  A supporting role is just that it supports the dominant energies who lead and direct the course.  Jenny also recognised the areas of her life where she was the leading role and the most dominant energy or amongst them and how she tuned the energies as a tuning fork does. 

Armed with this information Jenny made a major decision about whether she wanted to continue supporting the dominant energies of the group she was supporting!  And decided she was going to stop supporting the dominant energies of a group that was being lead in a direction she didn't wish to support.  And she realised this was where she was the most dominant leader in her life, the chooser and discerner of what she participated in! 

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This week has been intensely felt.  I have felt grouchy and noticed others grouchiness.  I have seen miscommunication and misunderstandings.  I have felt the need to be alone and reflective.  I've seen my shadow surfacing and the fears buried deep.  I was speaking with Lady Kwan Yinn who supports us in healing our inner child.  We all have our inner child and the memories from our upbringing within us.  We grow up around it and so we are all like Russian dolls.  I have noticed how each time I would begin something new I was met with harsh judges.  And I had internalised many of these voices and would dwell on them each time I would begin something new.  I am sharing here because I am sure many of you are experiencing the same things.  And yet feel that some how you are not doing it right or good enough or failing some how because you still have things that come up when you begin new stuff.  I may be wrong and you may have it all figured out and not feel over whelmed ever and if this is the case then I judge you not!  I was so interested to have been shown messages from three sources this week that confirmed that even the Buddah, Master Jesus and Mother Mary all had their moments when their emotions welled up and they questioned themselves and doubted themselves.  This was a relief.  I know that I have wanted to appeared together because otherwise how could I help anyone else?   Yet, the truth is that no one has it all together, NO one who is on the earth now.  Not even the Dali Lama!  There is no judgement in that its just the fact that we are humans and we have patterns that we have mastered and patterns we haven't and we get to see those that are not yet in alignment with our LOVE centre which is situated in our heart space just between our breast bone. 

As a young girl I remember my dismay at five years old when I designed a picture which I was very proud of that is until I showed it to my teacher who told me it was not good enough to be entered in to the dental competition all because I had written 'Are nurse' instead of 'Our nurse' on the door of the dental surgery.  The joy at my creation dwindled very quickly and I've never really gotten over it and so I don't paint or draw and right there any chances of me being an artist ended!  Yet, here I am today creating something new and in fact we are all creative geniuses regardless of what our earlier or even later teachers taught us.  A dear friend Irma Kaye Sawyer said it clearly just this week that it takes great courage to share out in the public forum because one is open to judgements and for the new writer or creator this can greatly knock their confidence.  Another amazing lady is Jill Renee Feeler and she reminded me recently that when we look outside of our own feelings for feedback we are open to all manners of opinions not all of them are nurturing.  I know that Louise Trevatt at Simply Changing Coaching training  helped me to find some wonderful tools that have helped me to deal with some of that judgement along with the sharings of Jill and Irma.

So I am here to share with you that it is most important to follow your own JOY regardless of what anyone else thinks or says, if it energises you and makes you smile do it.  Don't let something that was said when you were 5 years old stop you one moment longer.  No one has the right to hold you back unless you let them.  Here's to being real and that includes knowing that no one is perfect and those who pretend to be are probably the most afraid to share their creations or share and then blame someone else if they feel judged.  Lets discern what feels good and let the rest go!!!!!  

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February has been a short month that's nearly over, however, it has also been a time of rapid growth in all areas of my life.  At times very challenging and emotive but with the outcome of golden nuggets.  So I am going to share here a summary of what I discovered and it may help you to evaluate your own life path and the boundaries that shape it, so you can decide if you want to make any adjustments. 

As I have shared in other blogs boundary lessons are continual and yet I would say that during in February 2013 my boundaries became much more clearer than ever before.  The holistic healing services I offer which include Readings to help a client to gain clarity, reiki which equally shows where areas of a clients life are blocked and tools I offer for clearing up these blocks, for example, reiki, coaching and NLP all assist in building more defined boundaries and assessing which roles a client is playing and thus which boundaries support them the best in that role. 

Here's some things I discovered:   
One of the biggest lessons/learning's, I have learnt of late is that depending on the role I am in the boundaries and agreements are different.  So in some roles I have agreed to help practically as in my care work role, however, it is not my role to make
choices for the other about the help they receive.  If its not agreed on their care plan I don't have their agreement.  In my father's life he has choices to receive help or not.  He asked for my help in advocating with those who care for him recently.  However, I have not agreed to be helping him day to day, which is why he has chosen to delegate these parts of his life to others.  As a mum of a late teen I have agreed to advocate only if she is really stuck and financially support her whilst in education but we have no agreement that I will make her choices for her.  In my relationship with my beloved I have agreed to share time together and mutually support if it does not infringe on my own wellbeing and soul path.  In my friendships I have agreed to share suggestions if asked but never to make another's choices.  In fact I have shared recently with friends
that since I do not know what their soul path is I cannot judge if they are doing it right or wrong only their energy can tell them that.  In my relationship with myself I have agreed to take care of my body suit and then to follow the synchronicities and energy flows and heart pulls which inform my choices. As a holistic intuitive healer and coach my role is to assist my clients to become more self aware of the patterns showing up in their energy at the moment, gain clarity on any areas that they feel blocked or stuck and then using Reiki, Coaching and NLP assist my clients in taking steps to build the life that would fit them much more self serving ways.  However, it is not my role to advise or decide your next steps.  Saying all of that, having someone to help you to assess your life and to assist you in getting really clear about what you do next is ONE of the greatest gifts you could ever allow yourself.  I am happy to say I know where I begin and where I end in each area of my life because of the tools I have to offer.  Would you like that sort of clarity and assistance to? 

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Source Creator some may label as God, Allah, The All that is, and one may also think that the reality we can see with the five senses of sight, hearing, touch, taste and smell is all that there is.  However, the truth is that there really is more than the eye can see.  In the most simplistic terms the universe is a multitude of frequencies.  So are some better than others? No from the highest perspective none of the frequencies is any better than any other, each just enables a different level of experiencing reality.  

I was brought up to be nice.  Being nice meant saying yes and going along with what others wanted.  Being nice meant when my best friend said at 10 years old "You are not wearing that coat and copying me" I changed it and tried to find something very different.  I continued to confuse being NICE with being loving for many years later.  I always wanted to share with others.  I would go to work and share all I had learnt with others because deep inside I believed that we were all ONE and if I shared then we'd all benefit.  Others never agreed with this and with held everything they had learned and I would feel disheartened but still compelled to continue sharing.  When my first boyfriend would complain about each thing I would do I would try even harder next time, yet, I never seemed to hit what he wanted.  At work I would try to share and communicate and would be found writing a list and explaining all about my job so the person covering for me would find it easier.  However, they never returned this favour.  This being so nice also meant at any one time I would have lots on the go and inevitably I would end up letting someone down and they'd be so damn annoyed and I'd be left thinking - what happened I am doing so so much to help others can't they see this?  

The biggest disappointment came when I was studying and on placements.  I would try so hard to understand what was required and would put 110% into what I was doing but somehow it wasn't what they wanted.  I was such a 'NICE' person so why was I in such a horrible space?  I was frequently shouted at and told to stop making a big deal out of things.  So when I couldn't do what others wanted they'd shout, when they were doing something I didn't like and I spoke up they'd say stop making a big deal out of it.  To say the least I was totally confused.  How on earth will I ever get the outer to reflect the nice, sharing, caring world I wanted to live in.  Where were all the nice people?  

Even my Reiki Master seemed to be very impatient and short with me.  I began to wondered if there was something seriously wrong with me if the reflection in the mirror was so horrid?  And then I'd see such quotes and comments that you create your reality by what you are and what you do and think and feel - NOW these just drove the feeling of something being seriously wrong with me deep and more painful.  Being nice and loving just didn't seem to be the answer. So what was?

Self respect - I learnt that the person I needed to be nice to was me.  You see the way it is, is that what is out there is reflected outwards and so it doesn't matter so much what I do out there nearly as much as in matter what I do in here first!  You see cleaning the mirror doesn't improve the mirror half as much as nurturing what is being looked at through the mirror.  How I treat me is what is reflected out there.  So being nice isn't bad its just an inside job first!  


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Most recently I have been faced with some dilemmas and I am going to share them here since they may be things others are going through.  Firstly with my father who has quite complex care needs.  After confusion and deliberation and prayer about these dilemmas.  I was lead to asking a dear human spiritual companion Calista Ascension Writer and Teacher who reminded me of the Spiritual Law of Grace and to check in with my own intentions.  Then I went back to prayer and asked for assistance in understanding the Law of Grace.  I was lead to read about the Law of Grace and the Law of request and later Neale Donald Walsch book and my clarity increased.  I realized that others were reinforcing his dependency unconsciously by their actions. My spiritual companions and my Beloved I am Presence and Mother/Father God speak to me through books among other things.  I firstly went into silence and then asked for clarity and assistance and then the next morning I had the thought to go into my closet and there it was the book by Diane Cooper about the Spiritual Laws.  And then I realized that Neale Donald Walsch book CWG book 2 anniversary edition today clarified further what I was contemplating.  So my prayer was answered.  I had a similar dilemma with my work situation recently so I know this was a big area of my life as a helper/healer/supporter of others in Love rather than over taking. This rounded off a big subject in my life about boundaries which I have been receiving for some time now.  What would love do is a big question that helps us much?  Love is expansive so if it doesn't help another to help themselves within their capabilities is it actually Love or is it wrong use of power and fear?  

As I sit looking back on all the preparations of 2012, the meditations, group meditations, healings and whollings, the activation's and attuning to many portals, moon cycles and to the sun (Solar logos), the waiting and anticipation for 21 December 2012  I sit here now in the silence of the unknown.  I sit and know that I know I want to uplift others and help them to get on to their true path and share their unique gifts in service to the whole.  I know that it isn't accidental that we don't know all of the answers because each aspect of our multi-dimensional big self is veiled with different thicknesses of veils, otherwise if we could see it all in its ultimateness then we'd never be able to experience the unique aspects that make up the whole.   So it is by design that at this level we don't get to see the whole out picture of the entirety of that which is Us/our beloved I am Presence.  Yet, recently we are closer to our I am Presence and filled with more of its energy at this level.  Thus, more is illuminated and much quicker.  

What does this mean for us?  It means that when we dwell on a situation or thing it will come into being much quicker than before.  It means our souls voice will be much stronger so we will feel more deeply when something is off kilter with our divine blueprint/our true path.  We have all heard of things being pre-destined but what does that mean here now.  Well up until 21 December 2012 it meant that in our pre-incarnated state between lives we encoded within us a blueprint which is dynamic and unfolds as we allow it to.  Each time we follow our inner voice the blue print unfolds and manifests more and more.  

Yet, from 21 December 2012 we were encoded with a new blue print which is still being integrated.  Many will be feeling confused about what this means?  And the truth is no one really knows.  Yet, as with the old blue print we will know when things are off kilter for they won't feel good.  When something doesn't feel good its telling us to change it, move away from it or to question our patterns.  For example, if our body is feeling tired and yet we are still saying yes to more activity then we will feel off kilter and may need to change our yes and no patterns.  Another example, if we are working at a place where others leave their work undone and we are fed up of picking up the slack and feel resentful we know we are off kilter and need to speak up.  Or it could be that someone is providing us a service and it is below par or to someone in our care that is not able to self care because of lack of capacity and we feel irritated that things are left undone and feel off kilter so we need to confront those people providing a poor service.  

We know when things are off kilter and that is all we need to know to adjust.  We don't need to know the whole out picture! 

I know what is important to me because I know what I value.  Yet, I also know at times I have many things I value and thus I have to prioritize.  I also realize at different times I may need to decide which value over rides.  For example, I love my daughter and partner very much.  I also love my dad, mum sisters and nieces and nephews and some very close friends.  I love people and sharing techniques, tools and ideas and uplifting others.  Yet, I have a barometer that tells me when I am radiating out of balance.  We each have this barometer but don't always listen to it.  Sometimes we feel that all the external demands are in control.  However, just like the light on our dashboard that signals low fuel if its ignored we will realize what the barometer was trying to tell us all along.  WE are out of balance.  So what is this barometer?  If you haven't guessed its our body! 

Our body is actually a Ferrari and if we treat it as such it will run smoothly and purr along, however, if we ignore the odd tinge and the odd ache and get so much into busy work that we forget to eat and live off coffee and high sugar drinks or binge on chocolate then its like putting gunk into our fuel tank.  At first it may chugger along but eventually it will grind to a halt. Then we will need a recovery team either on this side of the veil or the other side if we've impaired our Ferrari too much.

Arrrr but you may say What I need to do is very important and I will say YES it is however, if you cut your trip short then your impact will definitely not be felt.  So its about making a splash but knowing how big a splash to make.  Life is about transitions and some transitions take more time than others.  For example, I am building up my business as a life coach and Holistic Healer.  It is my aim to help uplift others and assist them on the journey that is their best fit! However, there are other areas of my life that I need to also take care of: My health, learning all the different bits about running a business, caring for my daughter and home, working part time as a care worker, ensuring my dad who has medical problems gets the care he needs, updating my blog, Facebook  twitter and You tube pages, so how do I keep a balance: I meditate each day, I use crystals and take sea salt baths and I ask my internal guidance team in this silence to assist me, I use oracles cards and note down any thing I see that answers my silent question, I watch movies/comedies with my partner and sometimes my daughter, I have lie ins and I constantly have to remind myself that my body needs rest.  

My biggest passion aside of my family is uplifting others and yet if I do not take good care of me then my wonderful ferrari will end up at the scrap yard.  I came here to planet earth to assist others yet if I don't assist me then nothing else is possible.  Because as Rhianna says we are like diamonds in the sky.  Yet, what Joanne says at Expansion is the Way! if we don't care for ourselves then we soon lose our sparkle!

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